Sunday, October 10, 2010

30 days of truth: Day Nine

Day 09 → Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.

That would be the person whom I refer to as "BFF" throughout the blog.

We've drifted apart in the last several months, and here are the reasons why:
  • He's in a steady relationship. Lately he and his partner have been spending time with other couples, especially his partner's friends. I am not a part of a couple.
  • He spends his time with his friends' kids. I don't have any children.
  • He wants to start a family. I don't think I want to have children.
  • We're both really invested in our careers.
It's more of the emotional part that has caused us to drift...we both want different things out of life. And it really makes me feel bittersweet, considering how much we've been through in 16 years of friendship. His coming out. My episodes of depression. His breakup with his first partner. My juggling grad school and working full time.

But you know what? I've come to terms with our drift...well, I'm getting better at it. There are still some days where I miss picking up the phone and calling at random.

But he's moved on.

And I know I am, too.

3 comments:

Brandi. said...

It's always hard to "lose" friends. There are several friends of mine that have left and we've drifted, and it makes me sad to think of "the old days".

blueviolet said...

I'm glad you're finding that you're at peace with it, but nonetheless, I'm sorry.

septembermom said...

It is so difficult to lose friends, but I'm glad to read that you're moving on too. Hugs...