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Kittens, I need some advice from you. I need to make this quick, otherwise I'll be late for my hair appointment.
Which, ironically, is the subject of this post. I have a friend who is excessively, completely, obnoxiously tardy all the frakkin' time. No, she does not have any knowledge of this blog, so I feel comfortable sharing this with all of you.
Last month I had to drop my friend off at the airport. She sent me a text message earlier that morning saying, to the affect of, "You're still coming over at 11:30, right?" To which I texted back, "YES!" Now, my friends know that I am responsible, and usually show up fifteen minutes before the designated start time for any event. So I get really annoyed that, first of all, my friend does not trust me enough that I won't actually be on time to her apartment.
And then I get to her apartment, fifteen minutes before I'm supposed to, and I knock on the door. No answer. I knock again, and put my ear to the door. I hear the water running. She's in the shower.
She texts me in the morning to make sure I'm still coming over, and she's not even ready for me.
Long story short, she lets me in (still not done with her shower), and it turns out, she's not even done packing. I inform her that I want to leave at 12:30 in order to get her to the airport an hour early. We end up leaving at 1:15. It's about a half hour to the airport, her flight takes off at 2:30, and it's raining heavily, so traffic is heavy on the highway.
Oh, and did I mention, she wasn't even finished packing?
So this is where I need you to channel your inner Emily Posts and provide me with some helpful information. The above example is, obviously, a big one, but this is just to illustrate for you what happens whenever I hang out with this person. She is never on time for anything. I'm really sick of having to wait for her for everything.
And yes, I know it's probably tacky for me to post this behind her back. Maybe I should channel my inner Emily Post...
Gotta run! Or else I'll be late for my hair appointment!
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5 comments:
I'm an early bird. That would drive me crazy. Wish I had some advice for you. Hope your hair appointment goes well!
Honestly, I would talk to her about it and let her know how it annoys you. I mean if you don't tell her, she's going to continue to do it not knowing how much of an inconvienience she is to you and others. Maybe she needs someone to put some order in her life and you might be that person. If after you talk to her and she continues to do the same, you might just have to deal with her less.
Have you point blank talked about it and how it's really difficult for you?
It is called "lateness disease". It's terminal and there is no cure. You can only manage the symptoms. One suggested treatment is to always tell the person to be somewhere an hour before they should be.
Or just accept that they will always be late and let it go.
This used to be the story of my life. I had 3 friends who were all like this. For 2 of the friends, I would show up a few minutes early, as usual, and they would answer their doors with towels on their heads, no make-up, etc. I ALWAYS had to wait for them. The situation kind of fixed itself, because I moved away and don't see them anymore. The third friend, well, I just didn't wait for her one day. I left. It just got to be too much, I couldn't take it. Needless to say, we don't meet each other anymore. The thing was....we would meet for lunch from work. I only had a hour...I punch a time clock. She owned her own business....made her own hours. Then she would show up late, then expect me to be late getting back to work because she wasn't finished visiting. One day, I just left....drove back to to work. She actually came in my office about 30 minutes later, and I just told her....I can't do this anymore. That was the end of it. I feel, that if she had been a true friend, she would take into consideration MY TIME, MY JOB, etc. If your friend is a considerate person and a true friend, then I am sure she will understand completely. If not, then some stress has been removed from your life. :)
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